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Dreaming the World

by Isaac George

November 26th, 2013

I travelled to London earlier this month to attend the Gateways of the Mind conference* on consciousness, lucid dreaming, shamanism and out-of-body experiences.  The line-up of presenters was impressive, and the venue was quite impressive as well. Up until mid-October I had actually not committed to going, and only some arm-twisting by the organizers at the 11th hour convinced me to actually attend. And boy, I am ever glad I did.

The whole adventure was transformed into a pilgrimage based on intuitive trust and timing. Once I had committed to going, everything I sought to employ for my needs fell into place almost without effort.  From being offered place to stay in a private home near the venue, and acquiring very inexpensive airline and ground transportation, I watched as everything else unfolded in a ‘just as needed’ fashion, I was treated to one of the most extraordinary shamanic – style sojourns of my life.  My very first experience of London was in 1973, and although I’ve visited there since that time, none of the ones previous to this one equalled the first time…and this one was quite magical.

Lest I turn this into some kind of shamanic travelogue, I’ll get to the main point. I found something even more profoundly touching than the mere symbols in the environment that I was in alignment with my soul’s deepest desire.  I experienced a rebirth, a reconnection to that part of my being that is the most lucid, and the most loving.  This experience reconnected me with the amazing and miraculous stuff from my kundalini awakening nineteen years ago. I experienced the extraordinary “wow” of becoming a channel, even as I was going through an intense healing process. I rediscovered what is was like to dance with it all which led me to a few moments of total lucidity that I can only be describe as ‘unity’ awareness…union with God while still remaining completely human.

I also reclaimed the childlike part of me that lived very close to Nature while growing up on a farm in my youth, and those times when as an adult in which I sought the solace I needed by hugging a tree, or watching the ocean’s waves, until the heart pains were washed away in the absolute wonder of it all. I began to understand the purpose of the wilderness that I’d been wandering in for the past 10 years, exploring and questioning many of the experiences I’d been through, acquiring and weighing new information, and trying to understand what direction my work and life needed to go in.  In other words…I’d been waiting for a sign of some kind…a moment of perception and clarity that would be completely compelling and unmistakable. I wanted another ‘calling’ to my soul, beckoning me into the next adventure.  And, even though I might fear letting go of the known, it is definitely the desire for freedom and authenticity that is giving me the courage to step into who I have always been.  I was totally Isaac and also ‘the everything.’  As Ariel kept saying over and over again through me for years, “…it’s a ‘both/and’ scenario, not and ‘either/or’ one!”  You don’t get it until you GET IT!  I get it now.

Since returning home last week, I am experiencing some essential deprogramming.  Many control programs, self-judgments, spiritual rules (and human ones!), acquired or force-fed beliefs and conditioned patterns are falling away.  Yes, this is painful at times, but when one of these layers is spotted, and the tears begin to flow, the ecstasy comes in to validate and heal on an ‘as needed and just in time’ basis, just like my London journey.  Other physical symptoms like dizziness and shaking happen, and then are replaced by a new sense of solidity. The most pronounced sensation is that of an open and curious heart…eager to love and to also just plain ‘be’.  Ariel called it “effortless efforting.” I like that…and it is a good reminder to approach the most challenging tasks with an attitude of playfulness, or at least complete attentiveness. The trick is to be deeply aware as much as possible without becoming transpersonal or detached from the moment.

So many of those I encounter, whether they be clients, fellow seekers, or just regular folks in my daily life, are looking for something unique, something that can lift the tension, anxiety, fear or sense of loneliness that seems to be their constant companion.  Sometimes it is lovely to read the accounts of some people who are seemingly so plugged into the flow of magic, and  that their lives are working so well. Unfortunately, we compare our experience with theirs, and think we’ve somehow not studied enough, cleared enough karma, gotten rid of enough ego, prayed enough, meditated enough, done enough yoga, altered our diet enough, or not attended the right workshops or read the right books, or found the right spiritual teacher, shaman or guru…yet. Endless, this self-improvement gig, isn’t it?  When does the striving stop? When we become finders instead of seekers?

Actually, this entire perspective of comparing our consciousness with others is just another adopted system that is controlling our minds, and preventing authentic experience from entering in naturally. It’s just that it seems so damn hard to not compare ourselves to someone else, or to a particular philosophy, spiritual or metaphysical system.  We want the Big Juice, the feel-good formula that all these things promise, but they only seem to deliver in short bursts or not at all.  I used to believe in “ascension or bust”, but not any longer. I can’t afford the cost, the toll it takes on my humanity and my soul.

Our thoughts are not a problem. We have been told our thoughts or the process of thinking is a spiritual problem which keeps us separate from God. Without our minds we would be unable to function in this world, and many of the skills we take for granted would be unavailable to us. Our minds are part of us.

Our bodies are not a problem. We’ve accepted how religions have demonized our bodies, creating shame, guilt and self-hatred and an impediment to spiritual growth. A house divided against itself cannot stand.

Our passions and feelings are not the problem.  Repression, sublimation or detaching from our deep feelings, desires and passion is a bigger problem that leads to distorted perceptions and behaviours.

Our ego is not our enemy. It is the vehicle through which Life discovers and expresses unique individuation as you, me, and everything else too.

Even certain negative emotions can bring us into awareness and action. Anger, frustration, lust, or even hatred, when experienced while remaining aware and grounded, may actually create solutions. For example, when your boundaries have been violated, anger can be the means to defend yourself. This doesn’t have to supersede your ability to love, or the perception of Love. By establishing healthy boundaries, you may actually call that an act of love…towards self and towards the one pushing your buttons.  None of these emotions can make you a hateful person, unless you become totally lost in it. Exploring our shadow side and loving it can integrate and empower you towards wholeness and appropriate action.

Even pleasure is not a problem. It is our yearning for touch that connects us to the manifested spiritual energy all around us…especially the miracle of our own bodies. There is infinite healing and tenderness when we caress the face of a lover, or stroke a beloved pet, or receive a foot rub, enjoy a favourite food, or indulge in sex without shame or reserve. Nature doesn’t blush. But our species has learned to do that through eons of hurt and shame… usually from religious or spiritual ‘authorities’. It is through touch that our hearts realize the reality of love, comfort and belonging in the manifest world.

Even as my heart and soul revel in this experience of opening and expansion, I am still aware that all is not harmonious or healthy on our planet, our Mother.  All that I’ve been exploring during the past ten years has not been made redundant in the light of my deeper knowing. If anything, now it is balanced and complementary. As Isaac, I am both/and a human and part of the great ocean of Spirit/Consciousness/God.  I am part of this Mother Earth, the Sun, the core of our Galaxy, while at the same time I am the Great Mystery. We are all that…and probably more. To not lose our sense of awe about the nature of existence while staying completely human is what Life is. We can either stay unconscious in our human experience, or we can awaken to our deeper nature without trying to isolate ourselves from our humanity.  Remember: Both/And. Not Either/Or.

There are people and forces in this world who are actively striving to prevent the mass awakening of Consciousness, this reconnection to the original human being, or as the Gnostics identified it – Anthropos. No matter how you might try to rationalize it, since the beginnings of the New Age movement and what I will term dis-identification with the world of human feelings and realities, the situation has grown progressively precarious and dangerous.  Anyone who looks around at what is happening today, right now, and calls it okay is in serious denial, or worse.  We cannot escape our responsibility to actually stand up for justice, fairness, and the rights of all living beings here, and to stand against the predatory and psychopathic behaviours that have manifested in our political, corporate, religious and social institutions. If we are to accept the challenge of these times, then we are all going to have to redefine our spiritual perceptions. Our survival, the survival of many species, and even the survival of Gaia(Earth) is hanging in the balance. That is exactly why we are here and in this Now.  Gaia has awakened, and we as Her children are awakening with her. This awakening is happening from the Galactic Core outward into the spiral arms, where we are.

One thing’s for sure, there isn’t going to be any rescue from space or from other dimensions. Recently the astrologer Tom Lescher made a quip worth sharing; “We’re descended masters!”  Turns the whole paradigm on its head, but I wouldn’t get too carried away with the idea. As one of my favourite authors, Tom Robbins, once wrote, “be your own UFO, rescue yourself.”  We demonstrate our true mastery by loving our wholeness.

What will the best that is in us do? What will become of us? What’s going to happen next? Frankly, even though I study astrology and prophecy, I just don’t know. That’s the best part…I don’t have a clue. If we really knew, would there even be an effort to get out of bed tomorrow morning?  That is also part of the awe I feel at this moment…it’s like approaching the first hill on a roller coaster. “Yikes” and “Yippee” all rolled into One!

What do you or I want next? Will this or that happen…or not happen? I…don’t…have…any…idea.  Maybe that’s okay. I can certainly desire and intend and will for my desires to become reality. This does work, but there’s also a better way that allows for the magic and miracles to flow into us and through us. It’s called trust. Desire to your heart’s content, then let go and see what happens with it. Another way to use will and intention without trying to bend material reality to your bidding is to play with lucid dreaming . I’m no expert on this, but there’s a wealth of knowledge already available to discover more about how this technique can strongly influence your daily experience in a positive way.

The bottom line is that the best in us is our humanity and what it connects us to. We’re warm and loving, a bit crazy and neurotic. We’re scared and we’re capable of amazing and courageous things. We are a pile of paradoxes…which is just as it should be, because that’s the way it is. We’d do well to stop resisting ourselves!

When we embrace all of ourselves, we begin to touch the most profound secrets of our deep Nature…the intangible thing that connects us all. We realize it when we love another for no other reason other than because we do…and there’s no explanation for it. We realize it when we spontaneously love our pets or children, Nature, or even our food and creature comforts. We enter into love whenever we cross the line and demand our freedom, or defend the right of another soul to be free. We are Love when we embrace and express the best in us.

That best is everything that you are, here and now.  For me, perhaps that’s just perfect.

With gratitude,
Isaac

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The Touch of Grace

healing-touch-of-jesusBy Isaac George

October 26th, 2013

Autumn is arriving in the Northern Hemisphere. Wet leaves are falling here in Ireland, and the smell of decaying vegetation and the wan light that filters through the clouds all confirm it. Halloween is just around the corner, also known as Hallowmas, and if you live in certain Latin countries, it is time for the three day celebration of the ‘Day of the Dead’.  Time to dig the woolly jumpers and Wellington boots out of the trunks or closets, and make sure our heating systems and chimney flues are ready. After all, to quote a now popular meme, “…winter is coming.”

Another response to the cool and damper conditions is the sense of needing to feel cosy and warm, so if we are in a relationship, the desire for closeness is accentuated.  Besides the obvious thermal advantages, it is the feeling of connection and protection that we crave. When we’re drawn closer to others of our own kind, whether it is one person or an extended family, everything can feel brighter and better. Even the growing number of people who prefer the single life and do not have a live-in companion will also feel this, and I am sure that they will seek to engage in more social activities, and take advantage of any opportunity to snuggle up with someone. Cuddle parties are becoming more popular. Not surprising…and no matter which hemisphere on Mother Earth you reside in, there’s more than just a change of the seasons behind it.

Human beings are highly social creatures, and even though the sense of being an individual has been part of the development of the human experience for thousands of years, in our pre-conscious state that existed long before the invention of agriculture, economies, city states, countries and nations, we were pretty much living symbiotically with the natural surroundings and within the context of a clan or tribal community.  Our sense of ‘self’ was inexorably connected to the sense of ‘us’, and we shared a mutual concern for food, shelter, health, companionship and safety in uncertain conditions. Since the advent of our brief sojourn into an industrial-technological society, the rise of individualism has given way to an artificial tribal identity via the global communications network. Corporate identities carry more weight in our consciousness than thinking that we are related to flesh and blood counterparts. This artificial sense of ‘us’ is replicated continually in social media, sports and entertainment archetypes (reality television shows, major sports teams, serialized dramas, etc.), and is constantly spun by politicians to reinforce and intellectual and emotional dominance nationally, regionally and even globally (i.e. ‘…a coalition of civilized nations’)

However we view our virtual interconnectedness, we still are denied one thing through our electronic mediums. The innate human need to give and receive touch remains an elusive factor in cyberspace, and in fact, it will never be simulated there successfully.  Even if it is technologically feasible to create the simulation of kinetic contact, there is no circuit or programming that can replicate the consciousness that is behind the touch. This power of tactile communication is something our species is now yearning for, and indeed, if we are to survive as a species, we must satisfy in some way. We’ve been starving for it, while wondering through the digital desert landscape.

The growing popularity of tantric workshops, massage and somatic therapies, and the relative newcomer on the scene – the cuddle party, is evidence of how many are seeking to re-establish the neural connections that respond to touch. I first experienced non-demanding touch while attending a weekend workshop called ‘Naka Ima, which translated from Japanese means “inside the now.”  All of the support staff cuddled with the attendees almost all weekend.  It was incredibly supportive when we were going through our rough bits.

There are many kinds of touch, and many kinds of physical manipulation, that can offer us a sense of connection or even provide healing from mental, emotional or physical traumas. Some may feel that touch cannot do what it’s being advertised to do, that is, replace traditional therapies or reinforce the standard societal bonding systems. Touch is discouraged in the clinical environment to avoid the possibility of transference of affections from a client to the therapist. Incidental touch, touch that is not part of a typical routine in the course of a therapeutic massage is routinely discouraged, for much the same reasons, though I feel it is more a part of the social taboos we’ve erected to respect boundaries. After I moved to Scotland, I discovered the ‘towel dance’ in which the massage practitioner was constantly readjusting and repositioning the towels covering parts of the body not being massaged.  Not wanting to see too much flesh, and be tempted by it, was probably the rationale. This kind of massage was, as you can imagine, not as enjoyable as what I was used to in the more laid-back environs of Eugene, Oregon.

Out of our five physical senses, the sense of touch possesses some unique characteristics. The many reported and purported cases of spontaneous healing conferred from human being to another usually happened through the medium of touch. Religious and spiritual ceremonies and initiations almost always involve touch at some point in the process. This includes Reiki initiations, baptisms, the gifting of Shaktipat, and other forms of activating an aspirant’s inner spiritual awakening.  Touch combined with an understanding of energy and sensitivity, and administered with love, can literally erase many traumas, especially those traumas that remain from sexual abuse.

In the realm of sacred (conscious) sexuality, of which Tantra is but a part, the power of touch to open and heal a human being from the main conditioned responses that have been learned through shame, guilt and judgment. Some of the forms that have come forward for dealing with these deeply held patterns are designed to heal people of ‘genital armoring’, which prevents someone from freely expressing and enjoying their natural sexuality. Most of these forms focus on finding the resistance or pain, and working with that to help the individual release the blockages. However, my own personal experience has shown me that nurturing touch, touch that goes slowly, gently and lovingly, not only removes the physical and emotional blockages, but also dissolves the charge on the original wound. The power of touch is discovered in how much heart and presence you can express through it. The ability to heal is inherently in the individual seeking healing…the touch of grace signals the person seeking wholeness to allow themselves to let go…to trust in Life once again.

It will be risky, and it will take some measure of courage, but to reacquaint ourselves with the depth of our being – and everyone else’s beingness, we must become more attuned to touch as a vehicle of awakening and transformation.  Body-centered therapies and practices usually encourage the individual to focus on what one does and experiences within our own body and space, or as something you only ‘get’ from another. To feel interactive touch, it is necessary to fully receive with the need to give, and to fully give without the need to receive. We are probably more habitually comfortable with giving than receiving, so I will recommend focusing on the receiving first, until you don’t feel resistance or the compulsion to ‘give something in return.’ It’s not easy!

If you are wondering how going for touch in a more proactive and intimate way will begin to have positive effects on your life, and possibly everyone else’s life, then all I can say to that is “what do we have to lose?” If you’re afraid you might lose your sense of individuality, well, that can’t really happen. Besides, how most Westerners have been conducting themselves for a few millennia hasn’t really contributed much to engendering more trust towards each other, so it may be time to add loving and graceful touch so that we may actually recreate the experience of egalitarian interdependence that our primordial ancestors enjoyed.

We aren’t really individuals, for we haven’t fully individuated yet. That is to say, we are not yet fully knowing who we are and expressing it without censorship or judgment. To be fully individual is to be one with all of Life…naturally. This is true enlightenment, for it doesn’t make value judgments about the body or the consciousness that creates and maintains it. It sees that they are completely the same thing. This is what we learn through the magic of touch, for it ends our false perception of separation and isolation, of being an ‘I’ in the midst of ‘they’.

The grace of touch can create bonding without bondage, unity without destroying the experience of the Self, and cooperation instead of competition.  Sharing becomes innately more natural and sensible when we lose the idea that we might lose something of our integrity through when we feel drawn to wanting to touch someone who is in pain, or someone who longs to know that they are loved and not cast adrift and alone in the world.  Touch heals. Touch helps us regain our humanity, which in turn opens us to the touch of something invisible in our hearts.

Sexuality is an inherent part of our spiritual homecoming, and I don’t mean nicey-nicey, hearts and flowers romance.  Connecting with our earthiness, with the Earth herself, will transform our biology and bring it back in harmony with Nature and the Cosmos.  In the last issue, in my essay “The Longest War on Earth”, I encouraged readers to get the book “Sex at Dawn” by Christopher Ryan Ph.D. and Cacilda Jethá, MD.  The title is a play on words, but the content, and our understanding and embracing of it, may just be essential to our survival as a species. Sharing, egalitarianism, and non-possessive intimate relationships existed in the primordial utopia that came before the Earth cataclysms of 12,000 years ago, which propelled us out of foraging societies, and into the invention or agriculture, hoarding, scarcity, competition, patriarchy, war, disease and death.  Such is progress.

The roots of this are much, much older, but suffice it to say that there was one thing that these cultures understood:  the chances for surviving and thriving were enhanced because of mutual sharing and cooperation. This also included touch and sexuality.  After finishing the book, I now recognize why I had such a difficult time acclimating back into human society in 2003 after spending  three weeks of deep communion with the dolphins (and the wild environment ) of the Big Island of Hawaii. The abrasiveness of that contact after living ‘in the raw’ during that time was illuminating…and extremely difficult.

Humanity will not solve all of its problems and challenges just by going to a cuddle party. But for those brief moments that you and the person you are cuddling with experience, you will cease feeling alone, separate, isolated.  As you focus on the pleasure of being embraced and embracing, just imagine yourself as this Earth. The Earth holds us all in her embrace in each moment we are drawing breath, and shares everything it offers without hesitation. If we are the children of a loving Earth and a Benevolent Source Consciousness, then we cannot lose anything by opening to touch, except our fear and loneliness.

As we travel through this era of an ever-changing and uncertain world, the encouragement to ‘love one another’ will take on a deeper significance. Perhaps the sheer desire for connection, companionship, and touch will transcend the realm of a need born out of fear, to a fulfilment born out of compassion and the sure knowing that we are all that we have.  Then, the touch of grace may just inspire us to see the truth of our predicament, and open to channel something through that propels back into the Garden…back to innocence. It won’t happen without work, but sure as heck won’t happen without play and trust.

Enough with the sad stories…let’s create a new script. Go gracefully…and touch with love.

Peace,
Isaac

The Longest War on Earth

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Fall and Expulsion from The Garden – Michelangelo

September 21st, 2013

Excerpt from recent session with a male client…

“Funny how you never hear the word ‘misandry’ anymore. It’s the opposite of misogyny. I consider myself pretty educated, but I’d never heard of it before. To me, that just shows how lopsided the psychology [of men and women’s issues] has become. You see it [misogyny] in movies, social media, everywhere, and I’m not saying it doesn’t exist, but there’s a whole other side of the coin, and that couldn’t be going on unless there was somebody else hitting the ball back…you know, like a tennis match, right? That’s kind of crazy. I look at Facebook, social media and things like that and I have yet to see in all this New Age hyperbole flying around everywhere, any man taking a picture and posting it online and being referred to as a ‘god’.  Not every woman who rolls out of bed with bedhead and does a selfie in the mirror is a goddess, but there’s no guy out there who can stand up there on that platform with her.”

Over the past five months I’ve been going through a huge metamorphosis about women and relationships. It feels like every wound, every insecurity and every mistake or wrong thought, word or deed that related to the opposite gender was coming up in a grinding and relentless way. Grit and grace, as they say, but you don’t get the grace till the grit is through. When I published the blog “The Shame Virus” in mid – April, that should have been a tipoff.  However, that wouldn’t have prepared my personality for what has transpired later on, from just before my birthday in late June until a few days ago. In the past four or five weeks, I have had a considerable number of clients, friends reflect that they too were under these same pressures. And ever since September 11th-12th, an upwelling of anger, rage and frustration seems to have erupted through many women.

The main themes of these times are about power, autonomy, the feminine, the masculine, the physical, the spiritual, trust and withholding, fear and love.  For my own journey,  many of my former relationships began showing up like the ghosts of Christmas past…only the were represented in the present by other real people in the environment.  The memories were there too…raw and uncomfortable. Being strongly attracted to women, and putting them on pedestals for their beauty and perfection. Not being ‘good enough’ for this or that woman. Being rejected and betrayed by women, or in some cases, attacked (by women, and sometimes men) for what was perceived as part of me being ‘inappropriate’ (guess which part?).  Not always sure whether I could entrust my partner with my secrets, which I thought were probably too weird or shameful to disclose…like being attracted to other women whilst in the relationship, and not accepting that I just love women in general, and that I am naturally and instinctively more attuned to the feminine.  I wasn’t even sure if I could trust women…sensing that at any moment I would become old news.

In my late teens and beyond, girls and women came to me with their problems, confiding in me, telling me truths that they were afraid to share with their partners. I felt honoured to be there to support and comfort, and whatever I offered in the way of friendly advice was always appreciated.  However, some of  the stories I heard didn’t do much to soften my opinions about how my own gender (for the most part) treated the feminine pretty badly.

As a child, I just didn’t like competitive sports or the bullying and bravado that my male classmates were into. I loved to be in nature and spent most of my free time in solitude within its bosom, and so my love for the feminine grew very strong  from my earliest memory.  When I was older, I was a perfect gentleman, and opened the doors and paid for the dates. I respected and desired the feminine. I trusted in it implicitly. The only male energy I could really be around were the oddballs and outcasts – mostly comrades who were into music, drugs, Tibetan Buddhism, spiritualism and science fiction books. They were also questioning reality and looking for answers of either a spiritual or existential variety. The women I was attracted to were also artists or a bit outside ‘normal’ society.  To live on the borderlands was preferable to normal society. After all, Nixon was in office, and the Vietnam War raged on.

Over the next two and half decades, I searched for myself, my career path, and the ideal partner for the ideal marriage, or if not that, at least a superb live-in partner. Part of my idealism around women was that I felt strongly that once I found ‘the One’, then we would change the world together. Now here, on the other side of so many more changes and the dropping away of outworn patterns of belief, I see that who I was looking for was there inside of me.  Ever since the kundalini awakening in 1994, we’re still getting acquainted!   That profound and momentous spiritual emergence was partially precipitated by a powerful female, and when I looked backwards at my life path, I saw how pivotal the presence of women and the Divine Feminine was in my journey!  After that turning point, I re-membered my Tantric and Goddess connections from other lifetimes and embraced some of the New Age philosophies rampant at the time about the men should now serving to bring the Divine Feminine back into the world. The message was that it was this movement that would change the course of humanity and the Planet after the turn of the Millennium in 2000.

So, here we are, fully thirteen years later, and what a bumpy ride it’s been since the beginning of this century. I don’t need to provide a list of all that has transpired since then, but I do encourage you to look at yourself, and look around at this world, and ask yourself some very important questions…

Are happy with yourself?

Are you happy about men/women?

Are you happy about your own gender?

Are you happy in your relationship(s) / partnership(s)?

Are you fulfilled creatively?

Are you fulfilled sexually?

Do you see that the world has become fundamentally a better place since the advent of New Age/Neo-Tantric and New Thought philosophies?

Are you friendly with all of your emotions, or do you label some emotions as ‘bad’ or ‘dangerous’?

Is your spiritual path working for you?

Are you worried about the future?

Do you feel helpless or powerless to change any of the above?

This is just a short list, and you could probably add to it. The point of this is to develop a profound and honest practice of self-disclosure.  We are all susceptible to the self-delusory tendency to see ourselves and the world as we want them to be, not as it really is. I guarantee that in the beginning , you will not like what you find.

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From HBO’s “Game of Thrones”

So today, after a five month long ‘dark night of the Soul’ we are emerging into a new space. For me personally, it is a space filled with a new awareness about the genders and the gender wars. As the title of this essay suggests, the longest war on Earth has been between male and female. The fires of purification around the issues of power in the realm of human relationships, whether they be male-female, female-female, or male to male, are now burning brightly. This brightness is lighting the way for the emergence of the true sacred masculine.

Men everywhere are under pressure, and yet our focus seems to be continuously drawn to the sanctity and safety of women. The recent conviction and sentencing to death of four men in India for the brutal rape and killing of a young woman there is held up as ‘doing something’ about men’s disregard for respecting women and guaranteeing their safety.  There is only retribution, and no time spent trying to understand how and where these tragedies are birthed from.

Men are committing suicide in greater numbers than ever before every day, whether they be poor farmers in India or Africa, or U.S. and U.K. veterans from the ‘War on Terror’ being waged globally…not just in Iraq and Afghanistan.  Meanwhile, other men who run the banks and corporations, or lead from positions of political power, do nothing to stem the rise of environmental and financial terrorism against both men and women.  My partner is a Tantric therapist, and reports that many of her male clients mirror the feelings that my client expressed at the beginning of this essay. These men suffer from erectile dysfunction, low self-esteem, worry that they cannot please their wives, partners or lovers, drink too much , eat too much, smoke too much, and are chronic workaholics. And yet, when they want simple acknowledgment, pleasure and a reflection of compassion from women, they are given the impression that there still has not been enough atonement for all the crimes that their gender has perpetrated against women over the centuries. The guilt is killing men, and women’s shame around their sexual and emotional power is distorting their natural balance.

We portray our genders as either victim or victimizer. We completely mis-remember that we are both without gender when we are not ‘here’ in this human experience.  I am not saying that being gendered is unspiritual. That is of the domain of religions and power-mad gurus that tell you that sex and the human condition aren’t quite clean and perfect enough.  Our power to project our insecurities and judgments on each other should be a signal to us to examine what we are doing to harm each other, rather than to help each other…to deeply question what it is that causes this to happen over and over again…for thousands of years.  How did it ever come to this?

I cannot answer that question in a single essay. I only intend to bring awareness to how important it is to welcome the Sacred Masculine into the equation of Life. There is an agenda to disempower and suppress the power of the fully-healed and emancipated man.  Men are expected to be as rich as Donald Trump, as good looking as George Clooney or Thor, be as smart and as witty as Jon Stewart , be a lovable clown like Steve Carell, and also be the perfect Tantric lover who has unlimited stamina while remaining emotionally present and gentle.  Expectations are running a bit high, and are a bit lacking in reciprocity. Somehow, we all are looking to get something from each other, and have a damned difficult time in allowing ourselves to receive from each other. Unconditional Love is not something we ‘do’…it is the allowing of receiving to happen, as much as the giving to be welcomed. There is no opposite to Love without Conditions…or else it isn’t Love at all.

Yes, the masculine is under pressure in many other ways. Sperm counts are falling like rocks out of the sky while prostate cancer, heart disease, and sexual dysfunction are on the rise. Most men are addicted to sports events as an acceptable outlet for male aggression, while fuelling it with unhealthy foods and alcohol.  Numbed out by 200 channels of television, endless false image brainwashing through media, trainloads of testosterone – destroying chemicals in the food, food packaging and water, and the male hormone disruption about by the growing and increasingly intense EMF radiation threat, they either have willingly or unwittingly come to believe that they don’t have any right or ability to stand up for themselves, or to challenge the corrupt power structures masquerading as legitimate authority that seeks to confound and disempower both genders.  We are told repeatedly, even by our New Age ‘masters’, “accept things as they are…no use getting your knickers in a twist. Be calm, meditate, don’t give in to anger…that leads to the Dark Side!”  This is the covert suppression of the sacred masculine. We must become the ‘safe’ sex.

Unless women are willing to sincerely look deeply into their own dark feminine recesses, they will continue projecting their sense of powerlessness onto the masculine, and stay ignorant of their own inner masculine strength. Unless men fully accept their own dark unhealed masculine, they cannot share space or power with their inner feminine, or with external women.  We are here to realize our inherent equality, beyond the labels of male and female. To cooperate with each other is the only sane way forward out of the corruption that is so evident all around us.  The Divine Feminine without the Divine Masculine will not be effectual in responding to and acting on the behalf of planetary and human survival. Speaking truth is one thing. Living it is the only thing that makes a real difference.

It may be time to stop the search for Divine Union as some idealistic ‘spiritual’ state of affairs, and even drop the projective labels of ‘god-goddess’ or ‘Shiva-Shakti’. Perhaps we have all been manipulated by false dreams and many misunderstood myths, with predictable programmed results ensuring that men and women remain estranged from each other.  An example of how similar we may actually be on many levels, is recounted in a recent book that overturns many assumptions about human female sexuality. Entitled “What Do Women Want”, it in many ways upends and contradicts our cherished pets about how different the two genders are in the sexual arena.  When it was released, feminists trashed it immediately, just because the person who compiled the case studies was a man. No wonder the poison of mistrust clouds our perceptions, and dulls our ears from really hearing each other’s pain and desires.

We can begin to change that. We all want to be loved and accepted. It will require courage, tact and a willingness to communicate. It will demand that all of us discover the truth of our ancient enmity, and what caused it in the first place. It will require action, not just reflection and ritual. It will require that men and women to first seek to make peace with their inner masculine and feminine, while choosing to listen to each other with compassion. In this will the true Sacred Marriage come into being.

War is over…if you want it. (John Lennon)

Acknowledgments and resources:

Thanks to my client for granting permission to use the above quote from his session.

To read an excerpt and brief review of the book  from the Guardian UK website on “What Do Women Want?” by Daniel Bergner, just click here.

Also recommend “Sex at Dawn” (I’ve not received my copy yet, so you’re on your own as to whether it appeals to you.)

My deepest gratitude to my partner Lynn Paterson for her reflections and input for this essay, and for her patience and steadfast love.

And my sincerest gratitude to all of my teachers…the female friends, lovers and partners I’ve known in the past and the present…and those I’ve yet to meet (again).